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Bismillaahirrohmaanirroohiim,

Assalamu'alaikumwarahmatullohiwabarakatuh...


LAa Tahzan : Aid Al qorni

saudaraku,
Kedengkian (hasad) itu seperti makanan asin yang senantiasa
merapuhkan tulang. Hasad itu juga seperti penyakit kronis yang selalu
menggerogoti tubuh pelan-pelan hingga rusak dan membusuk. Ada
ungkapan: "Tak ada yang menyenangkan dari seorang pendengki, karena
ia akan selalu menjadi musuh dalam selimut". Ada pula orang-orang yang
berkata seperti ini: "Celaka benar seorang pendengki; memulai dengan
persahabatan dan mengakhiri dengan pembunuhan."
Saya berusaha mencegah diri pribadi saya dan juga Anda agar tidak
mengidap penyakit dengki. Ini merupakan wujud kasih sayang saya terhadap diri saya sendiri dan terhadap Anda sebelum dapat mencurahkan kasih sayang kepada orang lain. Bagaimanapun, dengan dengki terhadap orang lain, kita sama halnya dengan memberi makan kegalauan kepada dagingdaging kita, memberi minum kegelisahan kepada darah kita, dan menebarkan rasa kantuk pelupuk mata kita kepada orang lain.

SAudaraku,
Seorang pendengki, ibarat orang yang menyalakan pemanggang roti,
lalu setelah panas ia menceburkan dirinya sendiri ke dalam pemanggang
itu. Keresahan, kecemasan dan kegelisahan hidup merupakan penyakitpenyakit yang dllahirkan oleh sifat dengki untuk mengakhiri ketentraman, kesejahteraan, dan kebahagiaan hidup. Bencana besar yang menimpa seorang pendengki adalah dikarenakan ia selalu melawan qadha' (ketentuan Allah), menuduh Allah tidak adil dalam kebijakan-Nya, melecehkan syariat,dan selalu menyeleweng dari ajaran-ajaran yang disampaikan oleh Rasulullah.

Sungguh, kedengkian itu merupakan penyakit yang tidak bakal mendatangkan pahala, dan juga bukan cobaan yang akan mendatangkan
balasan baik dari Allah bagi para pelakunya. Seorang pendengki akan selalu panas ketika melihat orang lain mendapatkan kenikmatan dan kelebihan.

Dan itu akan berlanjut sampai ia mati, atau kadang sampai kenikmatan
orang lain tadi sudah tidak ada lagi.

Semua orang boleh diajak bersahabat, kecuali seorang pendengki.
Sebab, seorang pendengki akan selalu membawa kita agar menyepelekan
nikmat-nikmat Allah, menanggalkan semua kepribadian baik kita,
melepaskan ciri kehormatan kita, dan meninggalkan semua sejarah baik
kita. Itulah hahhal yang akan membuat seorang pendengki menerima —
meski mungkin dengan berat hati — Anda sebagai sahabatnya. Akan tetapi, bukankah kita harus berlindung kepada Allah dari kejahatan seorang pendengki ketika mendengki? Betapapun, seorang pendengki itu tetap seperti ular hitam berbisa yang tidak akan pernah diam sebelum
menyemburkan bisanya pada tubuh yang tak berdosa.

SAudaraku,
Sungguh, saya peringatkan Anda agar jangan sekali-kali mencoba
untuk memiliki rasa dengki. Berlindunglah kepada Allah agar tidak bergauldengan seorang pendengki, karena Dia-lah yang selalu mengawasi Anda!

MOhon MAaf LAhir dan BAtih..
Semoga Alloh Menjauhkan kita semua dari sikap pendengki.

WAssalamu'alaikum
"Sebaik-baik manusia adalah yang paling banyak manfaatnya"

Suratan akhir tahun

Brader & Sista, tak terasa beberapa hari lagi kita akan memasuki babak baru: tahun 1431 H. Semoga dosa kita ditahun ini termaafkan, dan ditahun depan, menjadi lebih baik. Amin.

Tahun hijriyyah mempunyai beberapa bulan haram (mulia) yg pahala kebaikan didalamnya ataupun dosa, akan dilipatkan minimal 70x. Nah, bulan2 itu sendiri adl: Muharram (1), Rajab (7), Dzulqa'dah (11) dan Dzulhijjah (12). 3 bulan haram bersanding berturut2 -ayolah, setelah bulan 12 pasti bulan 1. Dan 1 bulan, yakni bulan Rajab, sendirian ditengah tahun.

Hohoho, Brader & Sista jangan menyangka ini tanpa arti; semua ciptaanNya mempunyai suratan tersirat untuk Brader, Sista, saya dan semua! Lalu, apakah suratan dari deretan bulan tersebut?

Yaps, kehidupan manusia. Kita terkadang mencapai masa dimana kita berada dipuncak terjauh dariNya, dan diwaktu lain tenggelam dalam ibadah, ataupun berjalan biasa bagai air.

Seperti itu pula, awal hijriyyah kita ditemani oleh bulan mulia Muharram, agar kita bisa mendekatkan diri padaNya, semaksimal mungkin; juga sebagai penyemangat amal.

Setelah bulan itu, adalah lahan latihan kita: bisa tidak mempertahankan amalan seperti dibulan Muharram? Disana pun nanti ada bengkel perbaikan amal ditengah umur: bulan Rajab.

Dan, sebagai manusia, Brader, Sista maupun saya, seharusnya sadar, agar semakin menggiatkan amal baik, karena kita selalu medekati ajal; Dia memberi isyarat, dengan 2 bulan mulia diakhir tahun, agar kita menggiatkan amal diakhir tahun -sebagai isyarat bagai akhir usia. Apakah kurang surat dan isyarat yg ada, agar kita selalu memperbaiki amal?

Asheeq Mustafa December 11 at 5:42am Reply

Bangkit dalam keterpurukan

Alawy Ameer Qolawun December 11 at 3:55am Reply
Dalam kehidupan, kegagalan dan kekecewaan adalah hal yang pasti pernah kita alami. Rasa sedih saat kecewe, marah, resah, gelisah gundah, berkecamuk jadi satu. Apapun jenis kekecewaan dan kegagalan yang kita alami, rasa kepedihannya sama, mendera dan meremuk redamkan hati dan perasaan; tentu saja tingkat kesedihan yang dialami, relatif, melihat jenis kekecewaan.
Nah, saat kita tertimpa hal seperti itu, apa yang hendak kita lakukan? Oke, sedih mungkin, dan pasti, tapi apakah dibenarkan kita terus berlarut dalam kesedihan? Diam saja tidak melakukan apapun? Hal yang pertama kali harus kita sadari saat mengalami keterpurukan adalah sadar sepenuhnya bahwa kehidupan ini ada yang mengatur. Kita diciptakan, maka apapun yang kita alami adalah tentu atas kehendak-Nya juga. Kita berusaha, Alloh juga yang menentukan. Kita berusaha, hasil kita serahkan sepenuhnya pada Alloh, ini adalah salah satu jalan mengurangi rasa kekecewaan, yang jika berlarut, bisa menyebabkan putus asa.
Lebih daripada itu, kita harus bangkit dari keterpurukan, anggap saja hal yang tidak bisa kita raih, itu kita memang belum waktunya, sekaligus bukan rezeki kita.
Yang dituntut daripada kita sebagai makhluk adalah berbuat, berkarya, hasil daripada karya itu adalah termasuk masa depan yang tak seorangpun tahu, tentu jika ingin menikmati hasil daripada karya itu, kita mesti profesional. Dan keprofesionalan, tidak hanya dalam kerja saja, tetapi ibadah. Kita sholat tidak profesional, semacam tidak memenuhi kriteria dan substansinya, maka berpengaruh besar pada nilai pahala bahkan keabsahan sholat itu sendiri.
Kembali pada pokok bahasan, yang lalu biar berlalu, jangan menyesali hal yang telah lewat, yang ada hanya sakit hati. Hal yang lepas dari kita, maka itu menurut Allah adalah bukan yang terbaik bagi kita.
Akhir catatan; sebagaimana kata orang bijak, kegagalan adalah kesuksesan yang tertunda (tapi kata temanku, andai kegagalan itu berupa orang, hih, akan kutonjok, kupukul dia, ehehehe)

The nature of beauty and good looks

The nature of beauty and good looks

1. Eat and drink sufficiently

To be beautiful and handsome, and brotherly akhwat not eat casually / pleases with greed, but ate the extent to enforce the bones to get the power in running the daily activities well.

Remember the word of God Almighty.: "Eat and drink, do not limit berlebih-lebihan/melampaui. For Allah loves not those who exaggerated." (Q. S. Al Araaf 7: 31). Then explained in a hadith: 'From Ibn `Umar from the Prophet. His saying:" Those who disbelieve ate with seven stomachs, and the believers to eat with a stomach. "(Reported by Muslim).

Messenger of Allah. avoid eating and excessive drinking. He ate and drank only when stomach feels hungry and fill the stomach in three parts, one third for food, one third for drink, and a third for breathing. Result is usually easy to eat a lot of obesity, susceptible to disease, tend to worship lazy, lazy work. etc..

2. Aim Sports

So beauty / handsomeness that God Almighty. bestowed on us can be maintained, try always fit physical condition through exercise according to interest / age respectively. Arrange the time on the sidelines of an existing activity. In a hadith explained: "The strong believer is better and more beloved to Allah than the weak believer." (H. R. Muslim).

With exercise, God willing, our bodies can better preserved, so that these conditions can help brotherly / akhwat perform tasks of daily routine with energetic.

3. Maintain cleanliness

All you need is kept clean all the members of the body and clothing. Bukhari hadith declares: "Go take a shower on Friday and although you do not keramaslah in junub and wear perfume" fragrances difference between the Ikhwan and akhwat there, namely: From Abu Hurairah ra, he said: Perfume is the man who smelled the aroma and does not appear color and perfume women are looking color and not smell the fragrance. "(Tirmidhi and An-Nasai). Ikhwan / akhwat should be able to maintain the appearance of the smell of sweat is not good.
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Also in the hadith reported by Bukhari and Muslim are explained cleanliness by keeping one's body of five cases including the nature, namely circumcision, shaving the pubic hair, plucking the armpit hairs, cutting the nails, and shortened the mustache.

To clean clothes, and Nasai Imam Ahmad narrates from Jabir ra hadts, he said: "Allah's Messenger.'ve Visited me. When he saw a man by the clothes worn and tattered, he recalled: Apparently he did not have soap to wash clothes It. " In this hadith, the Prophet. not like someone who meet and hang out with other people wearing dirty clothes and worn as long as he could wash and clean.

Messenger of Allah. teaches us that the clothes of a Muslim should always be neat clean drafts, so that looks delicious in the eye. Of course, these clothes do not have the habit of always collecting new clothes especially with the amount of exaggeration, the most important thing is neat and clean, because the clothes that become rizki we really what to no longer be used by themselves.

Dental hygiene and mouth, "Had it not burdensome to my people, I would tell them to bersiwak each time to pray." (H. R. Bukhari and Muslim).
Maintain cleanliness of the hair, the Prophet. He said: "He who has hair, he should respect it (keep it)." (H. R. Abu Daud and Abu Hurayrah r.a.). It means respecting the hair clean, combed, giving fragrance (hair oil), and keep it well. Islam does not like people who let their hair messy / disheveled, dirty, and smelly.






4. Self smoothing

Word of God Almighty.: "Say, who is God forbid that He jewelry out for servants to him and (who are prohibited pulakah) rizki good things?" (Q. S. Al-Araf 7: 32).

In interpreting these verses, Imam Qurthuby said: "Imam Makhul A'ishah narrated from, he recalled:" Once a group of friends waiting for the Messenger of Allah. in front of the door. When he was about to come out to them, he mirrored in the water in the vessel in the house. After he smoothed his hair and beard, I (Aisha) said: "You do this, O Messenger of Allah?" "Yes, if someone would see his brother let him straighten himself. For verily Allah is beautiful and loves beauty," replied the Prophet. "

Each person needs to maintain the neatness of her, not letting themselves in a wrinkled and ragged appearance with the excuse to zuhud. Messenger of Allah. themselves recommend groomed, but he was the most tawadhu and zuhud.
So, as long as it does not memperapi excessive self, God Almighty. suggested, "O son of Adam, wear beautiful clothes at every (enter) mosques, to eat and drink and be not extravagant. for Allah loves not those who exaggerated. Say:" Who prohibited the jewels of God, who issued for the servants to him and (who are prohibited pulakah) rizki good things? "Say:" All that (provided) for the believers in the life of the world, especially (for them) on the Day of Resurrection. Thus do we explain this passage for those who know. "(Surat al-Araf 7: 31-32).
But a Muslim woman should not tabaruj. God Almighty. has banned tabaruj through Q.S. An-Nur 24: 60 and Q.S. Al-Ahzab 33: 59. According to Ibn Kathir, tabaruj means women who go out and walk / expose myself in front of men (tabaruj ignorance). According to Bukhari, tabaruj is an act of a woman who revealed her beauty to others, and according Muqatil tabaruj is a woman who let her veil, revealing a necklace and bracelet.

Also true Muslim woman is always aware and remember the concept of attitude tawazun (mid / balance) in all things, do not get dressed up / spruce or exaggerated self-measure performance based on material wealth. "Woe to the dinar and dirham slave and slave silk and velvet. If he was given a favor, he was happy and if not given he hated." (H. R. Bukhari).

The latter, in order to look ikhwan / akhwat can be beautiful and handsome should be complemented by the maintenance of common elements with the science of the mind. Indeed, not all people have the intelligence and equal opportunity. However, brotherly / akhwat should always seek and ask for additional knowledge to Allah., As explained in the word of God Almighty., "And Say," Ya Rabbi, add to knowledge. "(Surah Taha 20: 114). In a hadith , A'ishah said: "The best of Ansar women are women. They are not shy to ask in order tafaquh fiddin (deeply religious problems). "(Bukhari, Muslim).
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Therefore, a need still sought is a concern to always try to add / understanding / practice of Islamic science bit by bit, the process of seeking knowledge until the end of life, because it will be the basis and do one's thinking. Similarly, other science, we learned as a means bertaqarrub (draw near) to God Almighty. So that, God willing, with the integrated elements of the heart, body / physical, and science in themselves and akhwat comrade, good looks and beauty we can bring salvation of the world and the hereafter. Allaah Bishshawab Nature.

O Allah, make light in my heart, light in my grave, the light in front of me, light behind me, light on my right, light on my left, light above me, light below me, light in my hearing, light in my sight, light on the hair, the light on my skin, light in my flesh, light in my blood, light in my bones. O God, besarkanlah me light and give me light and make me light the light and add me, add me light, add me light. Aamiin.
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How to Be Confident?

How to Be Confident?
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In the daily slang, confident that we mean self-confidence. Everyone really had a problem with this one term. There were people who felt he had lost his sense of confidence in almost all areas of his life. Problems may be related to the crisis itself, depression, loss of control, feeling helpless at the side of a bright future, and others. There are also people who feel not confident with what he was doing or with what practiced. There are also people who feel less confident when facing certain situations or circumstances. Based on the practice of life, we can say that the latter is normal in the sense that experienced by all humans.
Actually, what we mean by the term that confident? If you look at the scientific literature, there are some terms related to this issue pls. Here I just want to mention just four:
 Self-concept: how do you conclude yourself as a whole, how do you see your self-portrait as a whole, how you yourself mengkonsepsikan as a whole.
 Self-esteem: how far you have positive feelings about yourself, how far you've got something that you feel is valuable or worthy than yourself, to what extent you believe that something of value, dignity or self worth in your
 Self-efficacy: the extent to which you have confidence in your own capacity to be able to perform tasks or deal with good results (to succeed). This is called a general self-efficacy. Or also, as far as you believe you are in the field of capacity in handling your particular business. This is called the specific self-efficacy.
 Self-confidence: how far you have belief in your assessment of your ability and how far you can feel the "appropriateness" to succeed. Self confidence is a combination of self-esteem and self-efficacy (James Neill, 2005)
Based on that, we also can make such a conclusion that self-confidence is the effect of how we feel (M1), believes (M2), and knowing (M3). People who have low confidence or have lost confidence in negative feelings toward him, have faith in the ability of his weak and have less accurate knowledge of the capacity they have. When this is associated with the practice of everyday life, people who have low confidence or have lost their faith, tend to feel / behave as follows:
 Does not have something (desires, goals, targets) who fought in earnest
Have decisions  Not a decissive step (floating)
 Easily frustrated or give up when facing problems or difficulties
 Less motivated to get ahead, lazy or half-half
 often fail in perfecting the duties or responsibilities (not optimal)
 awkward in dealing with people
 You can not demonstrate the ability of speaking and listening skills to convince
 Often have unrealistic expectations
 Too perfectionist
 Too sensitive (sensitive)
In contrast, the great confidence, they have positive feelings toward him, had a strong conviction on him and have accurate knowledge of the capabilities of the. People who have good self confidence is not the only person who feels capable (but really can not afford) but is a person who knows that he can based on experience and calculation.
Various studies and experience have explained that a person's self confidence associated with the two most fundamental things in our life practice. First, the confidence associated with how a person fighting for his desire to achieve something (achievement or performance). It's like Mark Twin said: "What do you need to achieve is to have a full commitment and confidence. "
Second, the confidence associated with a person's ability in dealing with problems that hinder the struggle. People who trust his good will tend to conclude that he was "bigger" than the problem. Conversely, people who have low self-esteem will tend to conclude that the problem is much bigger than himself. Recognized this as Mohammad Ali. "The only thing that makes people run away from the challenge is the weakness of self-confidence."
Conclusion Bandura (Dr. Albert Bandura, 1994), explained that self-efficacy had a great big contribution to the motivation of a person. These include among others: how one merumukan goals or targets for itself, the extent to which people struggle for that goal, how strong it was able to overcome those problems, and as tough as what men could face failure.
Not only Bandura such a conclusion. Education experts have pitched the same conclusion. Self-efficacy would be a good one critical success (students) in carrying out their duties. They better have the mental readiness to learn, more had a strong incentive to work harder, more resilient in overcoming adversity and better able to reach the level of higher performance (Pajares & SCHUNK, The Development of Achievement Motivation, San Diego: Academic Press, 2002. ).

Negative sides
Normally it can be said that all people want to have a high confidence or strong. This is for example related to the two things we've discussed in advance. There is only one thing we need to watch out that there are some negative sides behind the high confidence that. Negative sides of this we need to manage so as not to produce proportional attitudes and behaviors that harm or damage. Among the negative side are:
 Arrogance. We put other people down (looking down or humiliate) for being higher or above. Such arrogance is rejected by all the values in this world. Justified we feel more than others but the important thing here is not until we look down on others, let alone to insult both in words and deeds.
 Feeling self-righteous and can not accept other people's truths. Sometimes there are reasons to feel right but we need to watch out for is the emergence of the true feelings that make us conclude all the wrong people. Even if we are right but if we felt that everyone else is wrong, it can make us wrong.
 Reject the opinions of others / unable to hear other people's opinions, suggestions of others, do not want to take lessons from the experiences of others or stubborn (stubbornness). Opinions of others is not all we need to listen but not everything needs to be rejected. There are positive things that we can take the opinions of others. It is said, one factor that makes the business collapsed after the triumph is for refusing to listen to opinions of others, refusing to learn from others, being flexible to change. They become covered with glory during this experience.
 Having a model of aggressive communication, authoritarian-style force, or without empathy. Communication model that often lead to poor quality of the relationship "Sincere", as well as invite more conflict, opposition or resistance. Instinctively, someone else will be more comfortable when approached with a model of empathic communication, assertiveness, or persuasive.
 Lack of calculation of the potential hazards or lack of attention to things that detail. Stand up to the challenge, have high confidence in the ability to overcome problems or to think "beyond the technique" is indeed a positive and necessary. But if it makes us accustomed to trivialize, underestimate or Careless, reckless, and similar, of course dangerous.
 Lack of capacity to trust other people or too perfectionist in judging others. Not easy to trust other people talk or do not easily trust other people an explanation for its ability before any evidence is real, this is needed. There are times when we can not 100% trust other people. But it would be a problem if we can not trust anyone else for all things, can not delegate to others for all the work, always underestimate, always wanted to be a "police" on others, and similar, this could distress yourself.
 Have the self-assessment "over", fixing the remuneration is too high, demanding to be treated too idealistic. Legitimate self-assessment we have a once sky-high, set the "price" as high, but if it makes our lives narrow, then we need to create an alternative thinking and learn to be flexible. Do not let us break our fault too hard. Do not let all that we can not distinguish between knowing yourself and do not know themselves in practice. The difference is very thin.
Negative sides that I mentioned above we might call the term "too confident". This is also different from the confident. According to the rules which apply in the practice of life, something that was so, it is usually considered bad and ugly.
Build Confidence

For some of us who have issues around low self-esteem or feel has lost confidence, maybe you can make the following steps as the process of exercise:
1. Creating a positive self-definition.
Steve Chandler says, "The best way to change your belief system is to change the definition of yourself." How menciptkan positive self definition. Among the ways that we can do is:
o Create a positive conclusion about yourself / create a positive opinion about yourself. Positive here means that can encourage or who can build, not a destructive or destructive.
o Learning to see the positive parts / extra / power we have
o Open a dialogue with yourself about the positive things we can do, from the smallest and from the start that we can do today.
In addition, you need to do is to stop negative self-opinion that emerged, such as I do not have anything extra, my life is not worth it, I only burden on the community, and so on. After we stop, our task is to replace it with a positive, constructive and motivatif. This requirement is only the beginning and not enough to build confidence.
2. Fight for a positive desire
Next is to formulate programs / self-improvement agenda. This might look like has a new target that we wish to achieve or formulate positive steps we want to do. Whether it's big or small, the point should be no change or improvement to a more positive direction. The more positive things (targets, goals or desires) that we can achieve, the more confident we are stronger. We need to remember that in the end we will only become better by doing something good for us. Period. No one can change this principle.
3. Troubleshooting positively
Pede also be strengthened by providing proof to ourselves that we had managed to overcome the problems that afflict us. The more problems we could solve, the more stronger pede. Over time we become people who are not easily insecure when facing problems. Because there is a reminder that, once we've used to using tactics resignation or lose, this will be a habit that makes us often problematic.
4. Base has a positive decision.
If we read from the practice of life as a whole, there is no one who is always confident of his ability in dealing with problems or in creating desire. Class people who have had Mahatma Gandhi shaky when suddenly changing reality unexpected. But, Gandhi had a way that we can imitate: "When I was desperate so I always remember that throughout history, the way of truth and love always wins. There are several tyranny and murder of a quick win but finally seemed to lose. Think I'm saying this, ALWAYS ". That is, trust Gandhi grow again after remembering that his pace was based on the principles of right.
5. Have a model / example of the positive
What matters more is to find someone else who can we trust the example of him. This indeed requires us to often opened my eyes to see others who are better than us and make it as a lesson. So the importance of the role of these other people, some say that we can improve ourselves of two things: a) personal experience (experiencing life) and b) duplicating (copying and studying other people). Prove it! Good luck.
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testament to the women apostles

Once we are satisfied with our postings about women, the complementary bit we want to add something ..
@ At the Farewell Pilgrimage, hajj separation between Rosululloh Saw the flock, he delivered berorasi last messages. Among the last message he is, will that be gentle on her, giving the rights of their lives, the rights to education. Also to always loved the ladies. Is there seagung personally instructed him to like it? Eternal message of all time.

@ Rosululloh had one day to go to the mosque holding his female descendants. Abil Sy.Umamah bint ash. What was he doing in front of friends? He was praying while holding the little girl. If the ruku ', he put it, when standing, he took profit held back. Is there a person who appreciates his seagung woman like that?

@ Rosululloh is Abul Banat, all the children who grew up, is that the girls. 4 girls, mother of Fatima, mother Zainab, ruqoyyah bunda, bunda Urn Kulthum. Rosul lovingly educate them, raise them. Yet the social conditions of the world as it is very demeaning women everywhere. Then, if we are not copying Rosululloh, we want to imitate anyone?

@ Do not ever try to harass women, respect them. Including the value it is not her in the issues of emancipation and feminism in the wrong direction and was deliberately formatted to trap women.

@ Women and men are not created except to each side to work in a field of life. If a man cultivate their ground, planting seedlings, sowing the seeds. So she chose and sorting the seeds, watering and cleaning of the wild plants that interfere with

@ Kullu dzati shidarin, kholah; each wearing a bra, is kita.saudara maternal aunt. Then, the child does not like to see her mother happy? Which child is not jealous and angry if an aunt in alone.?

@ What a true Rosululloh: (istaushuu bin-nisa-i.... Khoiro)

true story

This story True, he was Bp. Eko Pratomo,
Director of Fortis Asset Management
yg very popular with the Capital Market and Investment,
he was also very success in advancing Mutual fund industry in Indonesia.

What he phrased reply is very true.
Please read and internalized.

* Can we WIFE WE LOVE WITHOUT CONDITIONS * - - - a reflection

Start the husband read it ..... wife & future wife can also ..

Judging from his age, he was no longer young,
of age-me-dusk approached tonight even,
Mr. Suyatno 58 years filled with the everyday care of sick wife
his wife is also old.
They were married was over 32 years.
They are endowed with 4 children this is the beginning of trial strikes,
after his wife gave birth to four tiba2 legs paralyzed
and could not move it occurs during the 2 years,
The third step in the whole body became weak and even feels no bones
lidahnyapun already can not be moved again.

Every day pack Suyatno bathing, cleaning up, feeding
and lifted her above the bed.
Before leaving for work
he put his wife in front of the TV so she does not feel lonely.

Although she could not speak but he always saw her smiling,
fortunately Suyatno pack premises not so far
from her house that day he came home to feed her lunch.
That evening he came home to bathe her, change clothes
and after maghrib he accompanied his wife to watch television
while telling him apa2 natural pot all day.

Although she could only see but can not respond,
Mr. Suyatno'm happy even he was always teasing his wife
each went to bed.

This routine is more or less Mr. Suyatno 25 years,
with the patient he treated his wife even as he raised to 4 pieces of their hearts,
son's now they are grown up living the youngest-come college.

On one day ...
to four children gathered Suyatno their parents at home while visiting his mother.
Because after they married the child had lived with the family masing2
and Mr. Suyatno decide their mothers take care of her reply,
he wanted only one of all children succeed.

With elbow hati2 sentence
yg eldest son said "Sir we would love to take care of the mother
since we were kids to see the father care for mothers
not an iota of complaint from the father's lips .......
even the father did not allow us to keep the mother ".

With tears in her eyes the boy continued kata2nya
"already wrote the fourth time we allow the father married again,
we think ibupun will allow it,
father enjoy when old father,
dengan berkorban seperti ini kami sudah tidak tega melihat bapak,
we promise we'll take care best mother in turn ".

Mr. Suyatno said the same thing was not expected anak2nya.
"If marriage ......... Anak2ku & live in this world only to lust,
maybe the father will marry .....
but please know with the right next to your mother
It was more than enough,
she has given birth to you ..
constricted throat for a moment, ...
I miss you always reply in this world there
with love no one can reply with any value.
Please try your mom asked if she wanted condition was like this??

You want a happy father,
whether the inner father be happy to leave your mother
the condition was present,
you want the father of God's reply was given medical treatment by others,
what about your mother-come sick. "

For a moment, burst into tears anak2 pack Suyatno
they also saw a small fall butiran2 mother Suyatno dipelupuk eyes ..
eyes gazed sadly in great husband loved it ..

Pak finally came Suyatno invited by one of the private TV station
to be a resource person and they ask questions to Suyatno
why can survive for 25 years caring for his wife was not able to reply apa2 ..
tears burst while he was with the guest attendant
most of the studio could not hold perempuanpun emotion
Mr. Suyatno told therein.

"If people in this world glorifies a love in her marriage,
but do not want to give (to give time, energy, thought, attention) is the futility.
I chose my wife became my life companion,
and when he was healthy And he patiently cared for me,
I love the heart and not with the eyes bathinnya,
and he gave me 4 people lucu2 problem child ..

Now he's sick because of sacrifices for our love together ...
and was a test of me,
if I can hold a commitment to love what they are.
I Sehatpun not necessarily looking for a replacement let alone he was sick,,